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Having a family gathering tomorrow at our daughter's. I have been waffling between taking Sofie (and her crate) and leaving her home. There will be four kids, youngest is 8 and the rest adults. It may get noisy at times and probably a lot of feet shuffling about. All have met Sofie. She is use to noise as we have grand kids here and we have taken her to soccer, baseball games, and stores. She does pretty well and has improved a lot from just 2-3 months ago. The concern is a large amount of people and limited area to roam. The house is a cape cod style. The kids rooms will be off limits to her, as well as our daughter's bedroom. She has been to our daughter's before. We will crate her, but she will also be out some. I do not foresee a time when everyone will be settled and some one (mostly the kids) will not be up and about. Sofie is easily happily excitable around people she doesn't see daily. Stay home or go?
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I vote for leaving your pup at home. How far do you have to go to the reunion? How long will you be gone?

There will be too much stress there with all the people and noise, and little kids. Not only you but your pup will be stressed.



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I vote for leaving your pup at home. How far do you have to go to the reunion? How long will you be gone?

There will be too much stress there with all the people and noise, and little kids. Not only you but your pup will be stressed.
It is a 45 minute drive one way. We figured on not being gone for more than 6 hours including travel time. I am leaning more towards leaving her home. We have seldom left her for more than 4 hours. One time for about 6 hours.
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Whenever I bring my puppy somewhere where there's a lot of people (including kids between newborn and 11 years), I'll keep him leashed and tied to myself. This makes sure that no one is feeding him people food, and that he's not getting into trouble. I also really like that this gets him used to not chasing kids when they're running around.

Do what you feel most comfortable with as you know your dog, the people, and the surroundings best.
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If you can just up and leave if it's not working for. sophie, I'd say it was OK to take her. If people will be offended if you have to leave "because of the DOG" or if you'd rather not be put in the position of having to make that decision, I'd leave her home.

You've worked SO hard on getting her to settle, I'd hate to see a monkey wrench trown into the works at this point.


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If you can just up and leave if it's not working for. sophie, I'd say it was OK to take her. If people will be offended if you have to leave "because of the DOG" or if you'd rather not be put in the position of having to make that decision, I'd leave her home.

You've worked SO hard on getting her to settle, I'd hate to see a monkey wrench trown into the works at this point.
Thanks for noticing Karen. I had a lot of good help! :-) And I would get the rolling eyes from some (have cats not dogs)... We will keep her home.

I would still be interested in others experiences if anyone would like to share. I ALWAYS learn something from each and every one of them.
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We've had good and bad experiences taking Kodi to get-togethers. Now that he's fully mature, we really can take him anywhere with us. As long as we bring his crate along, he will socialize as long as he wants to, then retire to his crate to sleep.

But when he was about 18 months old, we took him to a family Christmas party. My SIL gave him a toy when we arrived, and he was happy with that for a bit. But there were also many other toys around that were HER dog's "Christmas presents". Of course, Kodi didn't understand the difference beteen his toy and Sammy's toys, and wanted to play with those too. Two of my (grown) nieces took exception to Kodi "taking" Sammy's toys (Sammy couldn't have cared less) and cornered Kodi to try to take the toy away.

I heard the most HORRIBLE screechy growling and snarling coming from the corner with these two girls, who he didn't know well at all, bent over him. Fortunately, I was able to get them to back off, at which point, he ran into another room with the toy. I went in with a piece of turkey and NO ONE else, and was able to calm him down and get him to trade the toy for the food.

Thank heavens I saw what was going on, because I am quite sure that one of these girls would have gotten bitten by my normally sweet, quiet, well mannered pup. He was just toally over-stimulated, felt completely cornered, and certainly couldn't understand why one toy was OK for him to play with, and not the other. I put him in his crate for the rest of the evening, where he was MUCH happier, and I haven't taken him back to a party there. I love them all, but they clearly don't understand how dogs think, or how they almost caused a very bad scene.

OTOH, at the moment, we are at a campground in Maine. We spent the day with my two brothers and their wives, and each of their dogs. All three dogs ran in the woods together (with us, of course) and had a great time. Tonight, there was a concert, and we took the dogs with us when we walked up to watch. Even with all the noise and running children, and other dogs, Kodi was completely relaxed, happily greeting other friendly dogs who came over to say "hi". But he's a lot older now, and has had a lot more life experiences than he had with that early Christmas party.


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We've had good and bad experiences taking Kodi to get-togethers. Now that he's fully mature, we really can take him anywhere with us. As long as we bring his crate along, he will socialize as long as he wants to, then retire to his crate to sleep.

But when he was about 18 months old, we took him to a family Christmas party. My SIL gave him a toy when we arrived, and he was happy with that for a bit. But there were also many other toys around that were HER dog's "Christmas presents". Of course, Kodi didn't understand the difference beteen his toy and Sammy's toys, and wanted to play with those too. Two of my (grown) nieces took exception to Kodi "taking" Sammy's toys (Sammy couldn't have cared less) and cornered Kodi to try to take the toy away.

I heard the most HORRIBLE screechy growling and snarling coming from the corner with these two girls, who he didn't know well at all, bent over him. Fortunately, I was able to get them to back off, at which point, he ran into another room with the toy. I went in with a piece of turkey and NO ONE else, and was able to calm him down and get him to trade the toy for the food.

Thank heavens I saw what was going on, because I am quite sure that one of these girls would have gotten bitten by my normally sweet, quiet, well mannered pup. He was just toally over-stimulated, felt completely cornered, and certainly couldn't understand why one toy was OK for him to play with, and not the other. I put him in his crate for the rest of the evening, where he was MUCH happier, and I haven't taken him back to a party there. I love them all, but they clearly don't understand how dogs think, or how they almost caused a very bad scene.

OTOH, at the moment, we are at a campground in Maine. We spent the day with my two brothers and their wives, and each of their dogs. All three dogs ran in the woods together (with us, of course) and had a great time. Tonight, there was a concert, and we took the dogs with us when we walked up to watch. Even with all the noise and running children, and other dogs, Kodi was completely relaxed, happily greeting other friendly dogs who came over to say "hi". But he's a lot older now, and has had a lot more life experiences than he had with that early Christmas party.
Thanks for sharing Karen... I was a holding my breath while reading the first part if your post. That is a scenerio I have been playing in my head all week then chastising myself for looking for trouble. I do know Sofie and as a pup she still has much to learn about the small part of her world. She can get ramped up easily and at times is still a challenge to settle. She has not attempted to lash out at anyone at those times except for my husband or I. I do not want to put her in that kind of situation... I have family Christmas and I am wondering how to handle that. At least she will be in her home and have her crate and expen. I know I will be giving instructions, rolling eyes or not!
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Thanks for sharing Karen... I was a holding my breath while reading the first part if your post. That is a scenerio I have been playing in my head all week then chastising myself for looking for trouble. I do know Sofie and as a pup she still has much to learn about the small part of her world. She can get ramped up easily and at times is still a challenge to settle. She has not attempted to lash out at anyone at those times except for my husband or I. I do not want to put her in that kind of situation... I have family Christmas and I am wondering how to handle that. At least she will be in her home and have her crate and expen. I know I will be giving instructions, rolling eyes or not!
One of my trainers says that if you have to have a large get-together at your house with a young dog, do yourself AND the dog a favor, and put them away in your bed room, in their crate or ex-pen with a alrge meaty bone. You'll both be happier. Especially at Christmas time when there are often MANY things around for the dog to get into that can make them very ill.


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One of my trainers says that if you have to have a large get-together at your house with a young dog, do yourself AND the dog a favor, and put them away in your bed room, in their crate or ex-pen with a alrge meaty bone. You'll both be happier. Especially at Christmas time when there are often MANY things around for the dog to get into that can make them very ill.
Thanks, I get the message and that sounds like a plan to me. I have no doubt there may be more who may have questions regarding Christmas and it's puppy hazards that will start showing up as that holiday nears.
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