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Can MHS be harmful???

Hello all - I so need some help here. Some of you know that we lost our 11 y/o lab at the end of Aug. Hubby and I have battled MHS since getting Seamus just about 2 years ago. We were able to fight this knowing 3 dogs was too much. Well now with our big boy (& Seamus's best friend) gone, we are loosing the fight. As we get closer, I am struggling with the thought that it might be the wrong thing to do for our Seamus. Seamus is VERY spoiled, not just by me but he is such a Daddy's boy as well. When I say spoiled, I mean spoiled; Shea has 3 beds (that he uses mainly as his toy boxes for all his many toys), steps that go to our bed (where he sleeps), a special "island" built next to our pool complete with tiny boat house with cool bed (oh a 4th bed) and sand. More important than all the material things I am worried about attention. I know hav's love attention and to snuggle and Seamus has never had competition in this area. The Lab was too big to be on the bed and our mix was just never that type (he is old and grouchy). We say that Seamus thinks EVERY THING is his and hubby says his attitude is "it's all about me". That pretty much sums it up. I need to ask what you guys think. I want the puppy to have all the advantages that Seamus had/has, but I don't want Shea to feel slighted or sad. We are making ourselves crazy over this - Any advice is welcome!!!
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I felt the same way so can understand how you feel. I found that when a new dog comes into the house, the dynamics change. Most Havs are pretty good with change and handle it well. Mine would open the door to any newcomer so it's a good thing they don't have access to my checkbook
Each dog has their own favorite toy and the others respect that. It's interesting to watch and can get funny when one decides to tease the other and nab it. That means let's play in our house dog language and the one who owns the toy is given the toy by the dogs after they have some fun together.

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Jan - it is so funy that you said that, it was always that way between he and Ozzie (the Lab), but I just figured it was because Ozzie was sooooo much bigger. They were really funny to watch together! Thanks Michelle
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I would say yes! to another pup. It sounds like Seamus has more bounty than he could ever use all by himself! You don't want Seamus to be overly spoiled do you? <VBG> He will love the lovies from you and each you and your hubby will hav a Hav to snuggle! Seamus will also have a furry friend to run and play with 'til his heart's content! He won't feel slighted...that's a human emotion. He'll just think mom and dad brought home the best new toy ever!!!
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Jan - it is so funy that you said that, it was always that way between he and Ozzie (the Lab), but I just figured it was because Ozzie was sooooo much bigger. They were really funny to watch together! Thanks Michelle
I have a larger dog also, a standard poodle. They all play the same together and don't have a clue she's so much bigger than they are. They still can't convince her that runlikehells are a good thing though

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We have just introduced another dog to our home. Our dearly beloved toy poodle died this summer leaving our other seriously disturbed toy poodle alone. She became even more disturbed after her partner's death. We very carefully have added a havanese. Simone gets most of the attention from us including extra walks and snuggles on the couch. The fact that the havanese is too young to get on the couch by himself and is too young for walks doesn't matter. Simone thinks she is special! Simone has decided that Chico is her dog! She plays and snuggles and washes his bottom and chastises him when he gets too rough on her ears and tail. This has been a win win situation. Simone is happier than ever before and we have a new puppy as well.
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Jan - you might be thankful. Seamus reminded Ozzie of that trick; we would all cringe during the winter months when Ozzie (120lbs) & Seamus would do the RLH IN the house!
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I would say go for it. When we were adding our havanese Ginger our cocker was very spoiled and the only dog in the house. I was soo afraid that she would resent the fact that we got another dog. I really struggled with it....but three dogs later we are all doing just fine. They just adjust and you have to put the human emotion aside they don't react like we do. Good luck!!! I would do it in a heartbeat!!!

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Thanks all - I guess you know that this was what I was hoping for!!
Christy, love the "new toy" idea!
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