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post #1 of 36 (permalink) Old 01-09-2009, 10:52 PM Thread Starter
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HELP!!!! New puppy and I am going crazy :(

I NEED HELP! I just got a new puppy today and she cries soooo much I just don't know what to do. I am going crazy because I don't know how to make her feel better. I need her to sleep in the crate at night and I try not to pay attention to her when she's crying, but as soon as she stops I go to her and tell her she's a good girl and let her back out of the crate. Finally, after several times she quiets down and sleeps.... but then she wakes every 20 min and starts crying again!!! I take her to go potty each time she wakes then repeat the crate process... this is my 3rd time tonight and I can't keep going on like this.

OMG, now she threw up!! I am so stressed out and I just don't know what I'm doing wrong... please, anyone help?? I am so upset and I feel like such an awful mommy and I really feel like she isn't attached to me at all. During the day today while I was playing with her she would make crying whiney noises from time to time like she was unhappy. Please give me advice as my heart is breaking and I am at a loss for what to do.

Oh, and I don't think she is sick b/c I brought her to the vet today for a checkup and the vet said she is fine. I think *hope* she threw up b/c her diet changed a bit today..... we'll see tomorrow, but first I need sleep!!!!!
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HI! Welcome to the forum. Your little girl is adorable. How old is she?

Let's start with what works for many. Put the crate on a chair or table by your bed. If she cries, reassure her by putting your fingers in her crate. If she can see you, she may relax.

At this point I will assume her vomit is from stress.

If you are still up watching TV it is OK to let her fall asleep in your lap.

Tell us more about her tomorrow.
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First of all, how old is Mochi? Am I right in assuming this is her first or second night with you? She needs some time to adjust, but the first thing I would look at is the location of her crate. Make sure that the crate is right next to your bed and bring it up to eye level (so she can see you). This will help her calm down.

Also, why are you taking her out of her crate when she stops crying if you want her to sleep? Instead, you need to just firmly say Quiet, go to sleep. Once she quiets, assume she's asleep and let her be. Stick your fingers in the crate when she cries to help calm her down. Don't take her out when she cries to go potty. I don't know how old she is but depending on her age she should definitely be able to hold it for more than 4 hours. Why are you taking her out so often? You need to be firm with her and ignore her. Buy earplugs and use them if you must, but don't take her out when she cries.

I know you said she went to the vet and s/he said that Mochi is fine but perhaps you can call and explain about her crying when you're playing with her. I'm not sure what that's about as I've never experienced that with Kubrick.

And lastly, take a deep breath and calm down. Mochi can pick up on the fact that you are stressed out and upset and I'm sure that it's not making her calm either. Keep us updated!


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Poor puppy and poor you! You are exhausted and puppy is stressed out, tired and missing his family! Resign yourself to a bad night's sleep. Your stress is adding to your puppy's stress. Throwing up is definately a sign of stress. I have found that the first night with puppies goes best if I actually put the crate next to me in bed or right next to the bed and put my fingers in the crate. Don't expect a good night's sleep tonight, but try to relax and send calming vibes to the puppy. She is an absolutely adorable puppy and is doing what every new puppy does! Can't wait to hear how your new puppy brings joy to your life--- the first night are just tough!

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Ok, thanks for all the advice so far. I have put her higher up so she can see me and left a hall light on. She seems exhausted now as she just fell asleep on her ugodog. She is now sleeping in the crate. I let her out the crate everytime in case she needed to go potty. I guess that is too many times.....

I just got her today and she is 8 weeks old. I'm starting to think that I may have gotten her too young She is just soo tiny and she seems so scared. I really hope she adjusts soon b/c it is breaking my heart that she is not loving me yet. Tomorrow is another day and we'll see how it goes. Thanks so much for the quick responses!!!
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Hello and welcome to the forum. I would say that she is feeling very lost at the moment. A lot has change so fast for her, she is probably crying because she is trying to understand where her siblings are and she feels alone. Even though you are there, she is use to having canine contact. How old is your little girl. My guess would also be that the breeder did not prepare her to be by herself. You need to give it a couple of days and she will start to settle in, though you will go through a few days without much sleep. And it will also take her a few days to start feeling a connection with you.
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Thank you Heather, your words are really reassuring. I really hope that is the case and it's not because she hates me. I was starting to feel that way from how much she has cried. I got her from the breeder today and it was a 4 hr drive home. She pretty much cried the entire car ride. I will persevere for the next few days and hope she will come around.
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Awww, I bet she is just scared and not understanding anything. She looks really young in the photo. I definitely agree with the crate up next to you. The last puppy we had here we put it on one of the big tupperware containers and I stuck my hand in while she cried and she fell asleep within 10 minutes. I did have the lights completely off though. I have heard of people putting in clocks to sub as heart beats too. I would also call your breeder tomorrow and ask her how the dog was sleeping before. Anything you can do to transition your little pup will help the both of you. Keep an eye on the vomiting as it sounds like she may be very stressed out.

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(((HUGS)))) to you. Your baby is young and scared. Many breeders do not let them go this young. I am glad you are here to have some resources.
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8 weeks really is very young. She's just scared. Just follow the good advice here and I think things will go better.


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