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post #1 of 21 (permalink) Old 11-22-2018, 06:15 PM Thread Starter
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Hi everyone, I'm here to try to figure out some information about separation anxiety. The short version of a long story is in April my parents bought a female Havanese puppy. My father died very suddenly in May and my mother has been in and out of the hospital since then. We finally got a diagnosis for what was going on and so I do believe she's going to be back to full health but in the meantime we have this puppy. I've been living with my mother since June so the puppy is used to me although she is definitely my mother's dog.

I work full-time and I probably would not have chosen to buy a Havanese myself because of that. However, again, here we are and because my mother should be returning to health I don't really want to adopt out her last gift from my father.

At first the dog was bouncing all over during the day but now she's staying at the house. My aunt comes and gets her about halfway through the day and we're slowly weaning her to being used to someone just dropping by. On occasion I've left her alone for 4 hours, come home for an hour, going back to work for 4 hours. She still ate fine and seems happy. She is a fairly independent and confident Havanese puppy which works in our favor. She can play independently and is not a velcro dog.

I guess my long rambling post is leading up to, at what age can we stop worrying about separation anxiety and what on Earth can I do to try to prevent it from occurring? Although my mother's prognosis is good we've got probably another 3 weeks and we have at least before she's able to come home.
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Thank you so much!!!
We love this little girl and she seems fairly ok so far. We want to keep her but as social worker, her adverse childhood experiences score is off the charts. 😕
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I'm not an expert, but I would guess if she's been ok so far that unless something drastically changes, she's probably safe from separation anxiety.
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Sorry for your loss. You have a lot on your plate and you are handling it well.

Where are you located (in general)? I know that we would provide gratis daycare for that beautiful little girl if we lived nearby. I'm sure there are other Havaowners who would do the same.

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I live in southeastern MA.

thanks everyone. I mean I've noticed a bit increase in stress in her (barks a little easier, shy at first) but obviously that's going to happen. Nothing from that article raises a red flag and she seems to be managing okay. I'm not completely inexperienced with dogs; we had two golden retrievers when I was growing up but I was way too young for the puppy stage to remember much and goldens are, well, goldens. In some ways this is kind of good because my mother never left her alone and I do think the dog needs to be able to be alone for periods of time, so I'm happy that she is able to hold her own for several hours. I would never want her to spend the whole day alone but my mother does need to be able to go out. And, she's not hyper attached to my mother.

She is a beautiful and delightful little girl. A diva, but sweet.
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She is beautiful, I love her mask and her champagne and taupe coloring. Is this called chinchilla? Reminds me of kitty coloring. Me knows not, but thank you for posting pictures.

It is stressful dealing with doggie family members when things go tragically wrong in life, we all react to challenge as best we can. You have my prayers and good wishes!

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Having a Hav with separation anxiety myself, I think at this point it would be very clear if you did. If you’re still concerned, it can’t hurt to do a few short practice runs before she needs to be left for a long block of time following any new major transitions (such as if you move or someone’s schedule changes).

I hope everyone gets relief from life stresses during the holidays and lots of puppy comfort!
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I believe she's technically called a brindle. She started off practically black and that grew off now she has black tan and white sprinkled across her back, the dark mask and ears, and some gray in there too. Pretty girl although I do miss the dark colors.

Thanks for the reassurance and encouragement everyone. She's been eating really well and she may end up being a better adjusted dog because she won't have just become a one-person one house dog. My parents really hit the jackpot with this one, she's so sweet and trainable. I think if she were a year or two older I would be less concerned it's just bad timing for everything. She's a good little girl though. Wouldn't trade her for anything.
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