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Hi, all! We just adopted an eight-year-old Havanese we're calling Wicket. He's the sweetest little thing! One issue we're having is that he has clearly bonded more with me than with my husband. He sits by the door and cries if I have to leave the house (Wicket - not my husband, haha) and sometimes plants himself in front of me and stares if my husband tries to call him. We both walk him, play with him, feed him, etc. but Wicket seems to have imprinted on me! I'm working from home for the next few weeks but eventually, I'm going to have to go back to work while my husband continues his permanently-WFH job, and I don't want Wicket to cry all day while I'm gone. Any advice to help him learn to rely on both of us equally? Thanks!
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This is interesting from my perspective. Since Wicket is 8 y.o., my GUESS is that he was bonded to his previous owner, probably a woman. Ricky was 9 months old when he came to our house. There were no men in his previous home and Ricky immediately bonded with my wife. Ricky was "friendly" with me but suspicious at the same time. Since it had been agreed that Ricky would be my dog, I was 100% responsible for feeding him, pottying him, and walking him. In no time (a couple of weeks maybe) I was Ricky's "go to" person. Today, Ricky loves, loves, loves his Momi and cuddles with her, but if I get up and leave the room. Ricky is right at my heels. We are inseparable! He still prefers women to men with one exception, I am number one in his life. Right now he is snoozing peacefully beside me while Momi is doing something in the kitchen. He wouldn't want to be any other place. When Momi and I go someplace in the car and take Ricky and I get out of the car to get something, Ricky puts up a crying, mournful howl. He is heartbroken that I left without him. But all is forgiven once I return.

I think Wicket will come to accept your husband soon enough after you leave the house and back to work. In the meantime, give Wicket some space and patience to settle into his new surroundings and adjust to something foreign in his life - your husband. I think he will do just fine.

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You might be onto something there! Thanks for your quick response. To be honest, I'm not sure how bonded he was with his previous owner because he spent daylight hours in the backyard with other dogs and in a crate in the garage at night. So I don't know how much he really relied on the humans at their house! But he's certainly a friendly, snuggly, sweet little guy. I just don't want him to be stressed out if I'm not constantly in his line of sight. Thanks for the advice! We've had him less than a month, so hopefully his preference of each of us evens out over time.
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Havanese are "love the one you're with" type dogs. He'll come around to hubby when you are not there and he gets tired of waiting. Let hubby feed him even if you are home.
To get him used to being away from you, do a few minutes at a time many times a day. Don't make a big deal of it.
You will also want him to get used to being without either of you the same way before he is left all day. Start small...
Mine was not used to men at all @ 10 months. Now he goes ape$hit crazy over any man, woman, child or dog that even glances his way.
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Welcome! Wicket is adorable. Thank you for giving him a furever home with a lot of love.

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