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A little Nervous

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#1 ·
Hello guys!!!
I am starting to get a little nervous about Betzie coming home. Believe me I am excited as well but I just think about my other dogs and I want them to like her and get along. I always think in my head that they are like mommy don't you love us still. I know I put those thoughts in my own head. I know that it will take time for all to adjust...just needed to let it out. I think of Jillee the most.....b/c she is my baby....I want her to like Betzie and for them to play togther.....which I know they will but it will take time. Then starting over with the potty training again.....Jillee is fully house trained wich is a big plus......I am sure in a month all will be ok.....everyone thinks that I am crazy for getting another dog. This one lady said why do you want four dogs and I said well why do you have two kids.....don't get me wrong I love kids but I can't have kids and these are our babies.....my hubby gets mad when people make comments about it as well...he loves his babies too!!! Just needed to share my concerns...thanks for listening...or i mean reading!!!!
 
#3 ·
I think we all get those feelings. I regretted Dora cause Belle wouldn't even look at her for 2 weeks. She would stare at her and hide her toys, etc. I thought I made a really bad decision. Then a month later, she was sleeping next to her and she loves Dora (not as much as Dora loves her!) I think there is an adjustment period that you will have when everyone finds their place in the family.

The puppy stage is the best and the worst time too! I keep reminding myself before I bring another one home- all the bad things. I can't leave things down and I am responsible for everything!

But a new puppy- what isn't sweeter!

Amanda (who is excited for you!)
 
#4 ·
You sound like any nervous new-mom-to-be. I'm sure they will all get along with Betzie just fine. I too had four dogs when I couldn't have kids and people thought I was crazy. After I adopted, I had two kids, four dogs, four cats and a fish. Now that was bedlam!
 
#6 ·
i've read that it's good to introduce them all in a neutral place, like a dog park or someone else's back yard, and then bring them home together.

i have had dogs and cats living together and they became great friends, in fact, my cat fell in love with my buddy' big lab and would not let the poor dog alone when they visited.

i bet it's gonna be great and i envy you the good times with that housefull.

joe
 
#7 ·
Megan, DH and I can relate. We couldnt have kids so our pets are our kids. Never apologize to anyone for loving your pets. I love your come-back to the person who questioned you.
I'm sure little Betzie will fit within your family in no time. You have enough love for all of them.
 
#8 ·
What we did with Jillee was we let our two out to potty and run for a minute..then we brought Jillee out of her carrier and put her butt in there faces so they can sniff her....then we just let them sniff her and we brought her in the house after them....they got along but did not play together till a month later......Jillee and Lizzie love to play together...it is very fun to watch....I think it has made Lizzie act more like a playful puppy!!!
 
#9 ·
I think they will be the best of friends before you know it. I also wonder about getting another havanese. I love Mirabel soooo much I wonder if I will be disappointed in the next. I am sure that it will be totally different and I will love it just as much but it still makes you think. Since your lab and cocker accepted Jillee so well I am sure they will be excited when Betzie comes home. There is just something about havs playing together!
 
#11 ·
(((HUGS))) You sound just like a pregnant mama expecting #4! Same concerns, excitement, anticipation, etc! Congratulations on your Betzie!!! What a loving, wonderful family she will be joining! And your present dogs are so lucky that you care enough about them to bring them a sister!
Tell you the truth, people told me I was silly for having a fourth child. ("Haven't you guys heard of birth control?" *rolleyes*) They'd say, "You have your hands full." I'd respond, "Better full than empty!" You are doing exactly the right thing for your family. Trust your heart!
 
#12 ·
Megan, I was nervous too about bringing Cricket home. But you should see the dogs playing together...they are soooo much fun to watch. For the first day, my other dogs wanted nothing to do with Cricket, and when I sat down to play with her, they all crowded around me putting their heads on my lap or shoulders or whatever. Now? It's like they've always been together. I do believe that dogs can sense when there is balance in the household. I love all of them equally for different reasons (just like my kids), and hopefully they are all as happy as I am having them.
 
#13 ·
Megan, dont worry about it- they will do great. Each time I brought another home, I had them meet outside, and once we came in there was never an issue. The baby pretty much was with me, but I made sure to include the other pups and they settled in to their "places" in the family with no problems.
I too have gotten= "why do you have 3 dogs???!?!?" as if it is a curse or something. It is sad that people feel the need to critisize when they see something that is so great and works!!

At least Lizzie wont do what my older son did, at 2 1/1 when my second son came home. He was so excited to have his baby brother come home, he held him, played with him, helped feed and change him, and then 2 hours later, held him up and said "OK, you can take him back to the hospital now!!"
Out of the mouths of babes!
 
#16 ·
Megan, I will bet after she has been home only ONE week, you will wonder what life was without Betzie!!! You guys will be great. You have wonderful attitude, and love your pups more than most people I know & seem to have a wonder DH to support you!! I dont think you have a thing to worry about!!!!
 
#19 ·
Hi Megan!

Don't worry, your reaction is completely normal. When I decided to bring Nico home, it was a lot earlier than I had anticipated. I was on the list for Nico's breeder's spring 2008litter and ended up taking home a fall baby from the previous year! I went through all of those same feelings you are having, but in the end, all of the worry was for nothing! I truly can't imagine life now without both of my boys. They are so unique, I thought I wanted my 2nd to be exactly like Lito, who is my good boy scout with a heart of gold, but Nico is so different with his clown antics and his high energy, and yet he is exactly what we needed. He keeps Lito active and Lito keeps him in check. I am sure the same thing will happen for you!

And don't listen to all of the naysayers about treating dogs like children. DH and I don't plan on having any human kids, but we treat our 2 Havs as if they are our children! And you know what, I see nothing wrong with that. To each his own. You just smile and be proud because you are a great mother to your furbabies!
 
#20 ·
Megan,

I know your feelings are normal and you just want everything to go smoothly, and it will! Of course, there will be the puppy bumps in the road and the pack getting used to the new (quite adorable) addition, and they will love her and I do believe you will be one big happy family!! I'm sure Betzie will fit in just fine and Jillee will love a little sister to play with :D Just think, they can share clothes and you can buy matching dresses and bows! hehe.

Kara
 
#21 ·
Megan,

I don't think that anyone who has a dog (OR multiples!) could ever deny that there had been times when they slapped themselves 'longside the head and screamed "WHAT the HELL was I THINKING??!!"

It's a huge responsibility for those people like you, and all of us, who are passionate and devoted to our sweeties. But the DECISION to add another member to the family, whether it's human or canine, comes from deep love and commitment to helping the world be a better place through gentleness and generosity to others.

The love you and your hub have for your family is all you need. (Oh, God! I sound like the freakin' Beatles...) If you weren't second-guessing, it would mean you aren't covering all your bases. And that's what we do for our families: over-obsessing (that's a GOOD thing in this case), good planning, and looking ahead.

You obviously have the right stuff (I know, I KNOW...MOVIE!) and you're gonna' have a BLAST! ALL of you will. (Now just don't think about calling any of US at 3 AM when you're out for a potty run :pound:...although you know we'd be there for you!)
 
#24 ·
I just placed a petedge order.....pee pads....toys toys and more toys, a cute little outfit for Miss Jillee!!!!! No little outfits for Betzie yet still too little for me to buy some...she will just out grow them...i do have some outfits when I first got Jillee that she will wear. Kara be prepared for a fashion show between the two...oh my poor hubby!!!!!
 
#27 ·
I'm so excited for you Megan! You're such a good mom, it will all work out just fine, just give them time. My husband and I have 3 dogs, our city limit, but with my friend John's Hav, Barki, we generally have 4 in the house and there's never been a problem with them fighting.

You've got plenty love for them all, and they will have so much fun playing while you have fun watching.

Since it's not your first puppy, you know what to expect. You'll also love each of their individual personalities.

Can't wait to hear all about it!

Beverly
 
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